Tuesday, November 4, 2014

I Am Mom Enough


Unless you've been living under a rock, I'm sure you've caught on to what's happening in modern day parenting; this American generation is really the first one to practice attachment parenting, breastfeeding without shame, and baby wearing among other things. After Logan was born, I expected myself to be the ever so popular and modern "granola" mom. I was going to wear her, breastfeed her, and I made sure to read every ingredient on the back of her store bought baby food (after I tried making my own). If you've been reading for a while, then you already know that we did not breastfeed.. it just didn't work for us. We also did not baby wear.. Logan hated the Ergo and honestly, so did I. And after Logan turned a year old, I stopped caring that she had Kraft macaroni and cheese rather than Annie's organic.

For a while, I felt pretty guilty about not being a hippie mom.. how could I not be like all these other moms that seem to be doing things the right way? I did not want to co-sleep, I did not want to kill myself trying to breastfeed when I knew it wasn't working, I did not want to force my baby in to a carrier that I knew she hated and made us both sweat profusely, I did not want to spend a fortune on organic GMO free food when we've got rent to pay... being a crunchy family just wasn't going to work for us and I didn't want to be something I'm not anyway.
I firmly believe that you should do whatever works for you and your family; if you hate GMO's and need your kids to breastfeed until they're five and eat sugar free, then ok, that's cool for you... I just don't want to live that way and it seems like social media is so busy praising all of the hippie mama requirements that they're forgetting about the rest of us.

It's taken me a little while to realize, but because I do not breastfeed, baby wear, or feed strictly organic doesn't mean I am a bad mom. My daughter is healthy and extremely social and happy; I'd say that means I'm doing a pretty good job. I made the decision to keep my mind and body healthy by not forcing my family in to parenting trends that did not work for us.  Despite all of the links going around that tell me I suck for not breastfeeding and what brain power my child is missing because of it, I'm happy with the choices we make every day for our family.

Here's to us non hipster moms who are doing just as good of a job as the rest of them.

xo
-Ali

**note: I am not on one side or the other with parenting trends. I just know what works for Logan and I. Perhaps when the next kid comes along, I will breastfeed and baby wear! I just want every mom to know that the healthy choices they are making for their families happiness is what's important. If you are what I'm saying is "on trend" and you are happy, I am happy for you. If you are in my boat and you're happy, I am happy for you. The point is to make sure that all moms feel empowered and like they're doing a great job.**

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